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​FIFTY! THE MOVIE

Holla peepz! It’s been a while I wrote a movie review. So, this movie I want to talk about; I saw the trailer first when I went to see the movie I had my first review of and since then, I fell in love with it and have been looking forward to it. Yes! I am a sucker for Nigerian movies in the cinemas… weird… I know, but if I don’t support my own, who will? Lol.
Fifty. Let’s talk about the age first, and then we’ll move to the movie. A lecturer once followed a trend In class; of how we are so excited to grow up that even when we are 13, we say… we are GONNA BE 16, then we BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and your dreams are gone, then we MAKE IT TO 60, HIT 70… After which it’s a day-by-day thing, then we GET INTO our 80’s and every day is a complete cycle, where you HIT lunch! Into the 90s, you start going backwards, like “I Was JUST 92”. Then it eventually happens… you MAKE IT OVER 100! You become a little kid again, “I’m 100 and a half!”. You start thinking in fractions like you did when you were under 10. Isn’t life and ageing – or growing up, like some would say – not sooo funny? The whole point of this story is that REACHING 50 is an important landmark in life and a phase that comes with different challenges. It’s a big deal, not overrated.

Fifty is no child’s play… We mean business!
The movie started out intriguing and there were 4 major fifty characters. One, who was already 50, the hot-rich-obstetrician and gynecologist – Ireti Doyle as Elizabeth – who has this “hotter young boyfriend” and an “almost” impossible daughter (that is by the way because, in her way of hooking up with younger men, her daughter caught her in the “very act” with her boyfriend; yeah, it wasn’t a pleasant sight. Imagine walking in on your mom on her knees having sex with your boyfriend…). Then, the workaholic – Omoni Oboli as Maria – who turned 50, has nothing much going in her life and was having an affair with her friend’s husband. 

There is also the eccentric one – Dakore Akande as Tola, turning 50 too soon – with underlying family and psychological issues and still put up a façade for the world to see and believe; while she rots inside with her mums “help”… (by the way, she is the one whose husband is been slept with by a friend, while she blames another friend and she has a son for her father… amazing, isn’t it?). And finally, there is the one in denial – Nse Ikpe Etim as Kate – who thinks God is unhappy with her and spends all her life in the “house of the Lord”, while her own house crumble under her feet… earnestly praying for healing without her husband knowledge of her troubles (and she was the gullible one been accused falsely of cheating with her friend’s husband… sad, Isn’t it?).

A scene with RFT, the falsely accused friend and the estranged Husband
Ok, I have like summarized the whole point of the movie but it would be great if you see it, ‘cause it relates to what women in different levels and phases of life go through at the golden age of 50 – reminds me of “Lagos Cougars”, another must see movie.

What I loved about the movie; it was realistic, although not to the end (I don’t think a 50 year old in Nigeria would want to blow out her 50th birthday cake candle in a night club… maybe the trend is changing though)… the beginning was intriguing and captivating, I anticipated a whole lot more fascinating ending. My best character was Ireti Doyle; she acted like she was 50, her level of friendship with her friends is #Goals and the way she switches between her Yoruba, Pidgin and English… that was epic! And the best part was when she was signing an autograph for the lady that “would be 23 in like 10 months away” and she gave that cute sarcastic answer. I also loved the King Sunny Ade, Nneka, Aunty Tiwa and Waje’s part.

Shades of glamour and class…
What I didn’t quite enjoy was the too emotional Nse Ikpe-Etim, the gambling part of her husband and their bankruptcy story – I didn’t so get the thread of that story line. The over dramatic RFT – Rich and Fabulous Tola and her totally “unturned” abuse story, also the “almost to the end” story line between her husband and her friend – the signal it’s meant to pass… I don’t quite go along with it; it has an undertone of getting away with adultery #MyOpinion.

In all, I liked or rather, lurrh’d the movie! I enjoyed it and it is a classic – to me – and I would rate it, a 7.5 over 10 (that’s a distinction) Good work Ms. Producer and story/script writer. Keep it up!

…when you are beautiful and you know it…
That would be all for now… Remember to enjoy every day as you grow old, ‘cause you can never go back to been 21or 50 and you only live once.
Oluwakemisola A.

January 2016

My 2015 journey… it’s been fun all the way

Sometime last year, I ran for the post of welfare secretary in my association AMSUL. Although I didn’t win (lost to a senior colleague, more politically oriented by less than 30 votes) but in disguise was a bundle of blessing, promotion and more for me.

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Campaign pictures

 

So, my journey to this year stated from last year December on my trip to Calabar with beberhymes. There, I met a lot of people (people that taught me, sharpened me and made me see the world), I saw and learnt a lot of things. It was there I knew I could do anything, provided I wanted to, ‘cause I did a manifesto for a “stranger turn friend and sister”, without even knowing her or anything about the post I was running for her for. And taadaa!! I won, she won.

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Calabar, Tinapa!! wit beberhmes and de

This year started with me preparing for exams in school (life is hard but med school is harder… but we thank God), writing budgets, preparing and setting up committees. 2015 turned out to be the busiest year of my life so far. I really got involved in a whole lot of things, things I could not even think of in my wildest dreams. I went to places I never thought I would be, met people I didn’t think I would meet, I worked with a whole lot of different people of different hierarchy of life and professionality.

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SCORA EXCHANGE 2015!!!

 

I believe I became a better person. A person that could be stretched to her highest threshold and still function maximally. I became a stronger person, in will and in power. I met wonderful people. By the way, I got older too #sadsmile. I made my own connect, decision and plans. I also made mistakes and learnt from them 1st hand. I learnt political, organisations and planning ethics from the masters. I got to places I never thought I would go to or even enter, I stood before kings.

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MWAN BIENNIAL CONF. LOC 2015

Along the line, my professional exam results came out and amazingly, I PASSED! In all my travels, rigours and not been totally in school. God still showed me mercy and grace and I did not fail in any of my courses or endeavours, although all might not have turned out the exact way I planned but it all went well. For this, I bless God.IMG_20150410_234211

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Na Baba Loke

I was able to touch lives this year, with the help of amazing committee members, NiMSA Excos and members, friends, roommates and family. It was wonderful working with them all. I knew my strength and found my weaknesses. I did everything I had to do and became anything I had to become to make any of my programs a success, lol, literarily anything. I was a MC, a coordinator, a caterer, a cleaner, a marketer, a waitress, an usher, a PA, an errand girl and all sorts, just to get all things running and functioning…. Good, sweet, old memories. It was fun, all the way. I found out those I could trust with anything, who my real friends and helpers were. At the end, I found out nothing surpasses family. My sister was awesome towards the end of this year.

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#IStand walk with QC students
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SandraGee giving prize to students
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NiMSA NEC Meeting2015

Thanks to the 2015 NiMSA Excos, I also have sweet memories of travels round Nigeria and beyond. Days when we spent the night on the road (a lot on Benin-Ore road), night journeys that became morning journeys. Journeys that lead to destinations of better things ahead #smile. Days of late night movies and awesome daylight movies. Days of birthday dinners and old friends get-together. Days of surprise and impromptu journeys and events. Days of a whole lot more… I love my friends.

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Portharcourt with the fellass
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FAMSA, Benin Republic

Then I resumed clinicals, and whosoever said it was a chilling year, is a liar. I met the cool and hot doctors, the mean and unmean ones, saw the good, bad and ugly. I learnt everyone could not be saved, no matter how hard you try (some people just come in too late and are far gone beyond saving #sad)and also I learnt (in the clinic) that “everybody is guilty, until proven otherwise”… but in real life “everybody is innocent, until proven otherwise”. Endurance, perseverance and longsuffering is also key.

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SURGERY!!
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Endocrinology, at AandE…

In the Kingdom, I also made my impact, hopefully. After so many days of rehearsal and practising, I finally was able to play the role of the bride I was. It wasn’t easy, standing on the altar and dramatizing in front of the whole congregation, but God was faithful and true, we pulled it off well, thanks to my partner (the groom). Also I relented a bit in the things of the spirit, but towards the end I began picking up again. ALL will be WELL.

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Cooking competition, Writers Club was 1st

Now, in 2015, I felt every emotion there could be felt. I was sad, happy, excited, scared, fulfilled, disappointed, neglected, felt used, angry, depressed, expectant, praised, appreciated, loved, owned, elated, surprised, dragged, pushed, pulled, forced, liberated, begged,  wore out (to the extent that I lost track of myself, my personal life) and so on #smile… I saw, I learnt, above all I was sharpened and shapened.IMG_20150409_110527

Finally, I give thanks to God Almighty, who made it all possible and easy, cant still believe 2015 ends in less than 36hrs (without any of it consuming me or any part of me), my Mum, My Dad, My friends, sisters, colleagues (senior, junior…), mentors, teachers, roommates amongst others.

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Gees 21st Birthday Dinner…

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NiMSA Against Gender Based Violence Campaign
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MWAN, Sheraton.
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Girlfriends

I hope that 2016 is better off and more productive. Compliments of the season and happy New Year in advance fellas. And like I would always say, I LURRHH Y’ALL!!!

OLUWAKEMISOLA A.

30. 12. 2015

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