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Movie review: THE WOMEN!

​… With women, everything is complicated!… Where two or three women are gathered; there is war!

Its been ages here… #CoversFaceInShame, I know… #Sad, please pardon me. But, better late than never!

So, here is what I think about the movie; The Women. By the way, I saw this movie earlier in October with a Friend (of course as a late night movie… With only 3 of us in the cinema hall… Lol, but it was fun all the way).

The movie is majorly centered on 4 Women, who are “friends”, all married and supposedly living the large life on the island in Nigeria.  There is Omoh (Ufuoma McDermott) – the hot-shaped desperate wanna-be adulterious wife of Maro (Anthony Monjaro). There is Teni, the high shouldered queen-diva with a broken home on the verge of collapse embittered wife of Bez (Kalu Ikeagwu). Then, there is Rose (Katherine Obiang), the sweet-sour quick-to-action-in-all-ways friend, mother and calabar wife of Ayo (Femi Branch) and finally, there is Ene (Kate Henshaw), the Sugar mummy married to an extremely rich “uncultured” Ibo Man, Chubby (Gregory Ojefua) and keeping a sugarboy in their matrimonial home as a chef! Exhilarating! Isn’t it? Lol. Amazingly twisted actually… Lol.
So this drama started with Omoh discussing about her coming “Fortieth” Birthday party with her husband – Maro (and “40”, is a BIG DEAL!) – how she wants to spoil her “friends” silly, with a getaway weekend to “Dubai”, since Teni did the same for her 40th birthday some months back and spent “10million naira” celebrating the birthday. Maro, been a just, gentleman that he is and also a strong believer of “cut your coat according to your material(lol), truthfully and blatantly told his wife with love, that they can not afford it at the moment. This reply didn’t go well with Omoh, hence, the desperate measures of sleeping with a friends husband and telling lies to get money and prestige at “all cost”, to throw that party, that would be the talk of town.

Eventually, She got the money – enough to get her “close” to her dream “getaway party” (although somewhere on the island in Lagos), which turned out to be her actual “get away” in life… LOL. The cost, was “a whole huge lot”… And trust me when I say, it spared no one – not even her “3 musketeers” were left out of the hot mess… They all had their fair share of the “get away”.

At the end of the day, we were made to realize that;

  • No Marriage with a woman is “perfect”.
  • Every home has one or two secrets (some roll into hundreds of thousands over years).
  • At least, one person in every couple has a dark past.
  • To every happy home there is an EX hovering around (not necessarily for evil though).
  • All married women are not totally immuned to the charm of a sexy chef.
  • No matter how rich a husband is; appearance and composure in public still matters to women a lot.
  • You can be married to a woman for 13 years and not know her real age or that she has had a child (looks are deceptive, lol… ).
  • Post Partum Depression is real! (and full house wives are the most prone to it).
  • A woman wanting her husband isn’t all about the sex always (Husbands, please take a timeout to just listen to her rant for the sake of it).
  • When you see “wind blowing open the fowls ass” or you see “fire on the mountain” and it hasn’t gotten to you yet or you at below it… RUN! Before it gets to you.
  • Trying to be like someone else will eventually cost you “everything” for “nothing”.
  • When your home is in shambles – fix it from within – don’t try to place the  pieces and remnants on an external factor… It will totally crumble.
  • No woman starts out – “a liar”… Life happens and some of us just get greedy and self centred as we grow.

Although Women are good guardian of secrets; secrets are leaked at the hour of “hot gist” – beware of friends that know your secrets, ’cause “Hell hath no fury, like the “scorn” of a woman with your secrets”, they can ruin your entire being in seconds.

Try and practice to be truthful always… It saves you and everyone around you a lot of trouble.

Overall, I loved the movie! It was a good watch for my time and money… I laughed, I liked the way the scenes played out, the dramas, the conversations, the “aprokos“, the fights, the shades (yeah, a lot of shades were thrown; openly!… It was a massacre, bloody!). The movie was insightful, I saw a lot and learnt a lot that I could relate to in our today’s Women society. Although, I might not be so convinced about the ending of some of the characters in the movie (Ene , Teni and Omoh).

I would give the producer and actors, a 8/10 (that is distinction…). Keep up the good work and let us see more of this – to learn from, while enjoying the drama and having a good laugh.

Oluwakemisola A.

22.11.2017 (Happy Birthday Abisola Ajayi :))



Holla peepz! It’s been a while I wrote a movie review. So, this movie I want to talk about; I saw the trailer first when I went to see the movie I had my first review of and since then, I fell in love with it and have been looking forward to it. Yes! I am a sucker for Nigerian movies in the cinemas… weird… I know, but if I don’t support my own, who will? Lol.
Fifty. Let’s talk about the age first, and then we’ll move to the movie. A lecturer once followed a trend In class; of how we are so excited to grow up that even when we are 13, we say… we are GONNA BE 16, then we BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and your dreams are gone, then we MAKE IT TO 60, HIT 70… After which it’s a day-by-day thing, then we GET INTO our 80’s and every day is a complete cycle, where you HIT lunch! Into the 90s, you start going backwards, like “I Was JUST 92”. Then it eventually happens… you MAKE IT OVER 100! You become a little kid again, “I’m 100 and a half!”. You start thinking in fractions like you did when you were under 10. Isn’t life and ageing – or growing up, like some would say – not sooo funny? The whole point of this story is that REACHING 50 is an important landmark in life and a phase that comes with different challenges. It’s a big deal, not overrated.

Fifty is no child’s play… We mean business!
The movie started out intriguing and there were 4 major fifty characters. One, who was already 50, the hot-rich-obstetrician and gynecologist – Ireti Doyle as Elizabeth – who has this “hotter young boyfriend” and an “almost” impossible daughter (that is by the way because, in her way of hooking up with younger men, her daughter caught her in the “very act” with her boyfriend; yeah, it wasn’t a pleasant sight. Imagine walking in on your mom on her knees having sex with your boyfriend…). Then, the workaholic – Omoni Oboli as Maria – who turned 50, has nothing much going in her life and was having an affair with her friend’s husband. 

There is also the eccentric one – Dakore Akande as Tola, turning 50 too soon – with underlying family and psychological issues and still put up a façade for the world to see and believe; while she rots inside with her mums “help”… (by the way, she is the one whose husband is been slept with by a friend, while she blames another friend and she has a son for her father… amazing, isn’t it?). And finally, there is the one in denial – Nse Ikpe Etim as Kate – who thinks God is unhappy with her and spends all her life in the “house of the Lord”, while her own house crumble under her feet… earnestly praying for healing without her husband knowledge of her troubles (and she was the gullible one been accused falsely of cheating with her friend’s husband… sad, Isn’t it?).

A scene with RFT, the falsely accused friend and the estranged Husband
Ok, I have like summarized the whole point of the movie but it would be great if you see it, ‘cause it relates to what women in different levels and phases of life go through at the golden age of 50 – reminds me of “Lagos Cougars”, another must see movie.

What I loved about the movie; it was realistic, although not to the end (I don’t think a 50 year old in Nigeria would want to blow out her 50th birthday cake candle in a night club… maybe the trend is changing though)… the beginning was intriguing and captivating, I anticipated a whole lot more fascinating ending. My best character was Ireti Doyle; she acted like she was 50, her level of friendship with her friends is #Goals and the way she switches between her Yoruba, Pidgin and English… that was epic! And the best part was when she was signing an autograph for the lady that “would be 23 in like 10 months away” and she gave that cute sarcastic answer. I also loved the King Sunny Ade, Nneka, Aunty Tiwa and Waje’s part.

Shades of glamour and class…
What I didn’t quite enjoy was the too emotional Nse Ikpe-Etim, the gambling part of her husband and their bankruptcy story – I didn’t so get the thread of that story line. The over dramatic RFT – Rich and Fabulous Tola and her totally “unturned” abuse story, also the “almost to the end” story line between her husband and her friend – the signal it’s meant to pass… I don’t quite go along with it; it has an undertone of getting away with adultery #MyOpinion.

In all, I liked or rather, lurrh’d the movie! I enjoyed it and it is a classic – to me – and I would rate it, a 7.5 over 10 (that’s a distinction) Good work Ms. Producer and story/script writer. Keep it up!

…when you are beautiful and you know it…
That would be all for now… Remember to enjoy every day as you grow old, ‘cause you can never go back to been 21or 50 and you only live once.
Oluwakemisola A.

January 2016

A “Road to yesterday” from today…

Hellooo everyone! it’s been a while on here… but then I saw this beautiful movie late lst year (I know its a late post… I am sorry… better late than never) and I think I owe you all sharing it with you.

My bunkmate is a stalker for movie trailer, so she came across the trailer for “Road To Yesterday” and since then we have been counting down to its release and showing at the cinemas. On the first Friday In December, we decided to go and see it as a late night movie at the cinema. It was scheduled for 12:20 am. So we got ourselves together, four of us and made our way to the cinema to see the “Road to yesterday”.

The beautiful couple in the story

I personally had a lot of expectations from the movie, although it was a Nigerian movie by one of our best, I still left a space of disappointment in the picture, just in case with all the trailer and hype, it turns out to be one of the numerous “Nollywood Typical Nigerian Movie” lol.

The movie started with our damsel, Genevieve, coming out of the airport and been picked up by a friend to drop her home. Only to get home to a husband in a depressed and agitated mood, drinking heavily in darkness. This made the friend uncomfortable, leaving the wife and the husband in their home to deal with themselves, their problems and sort out their differences…

pic of hubby nd wife
The differentiated couple…lol (if there is anything like that…) 

For more than 95% of the movie, we were laughing and making jokes of it all but the last five minutes was epic! We or rather, “I” didn’t believe the turn of event (really, it was shocking.. I dint esperit… ). It took us all by surprise and all I could yell was “I can’t believe I just paid my money to watch a sad movie”… it was so sad, and the change was too drastic (they didn’t even gimme the chance to prepare my mind for the outcome…it just came in like a wrecking ball!). If not anything, this was one Nigerian movie I didn’t or couldn’t foresee or predict the end.


What I liked most about this movie, was the way the present, the past, hallucinations and imaginations were put to play, interwoven and at the end, it still all made sense. I could easily connect the dots, fuel my imaginations and decide on what I wanted to believe or not, with the fact and only message been passed across… “TALK!!!” and do the talking now! to anyone who deserves to be talked to or given an explanation… please do it asap… Never ever move till tomorrow what is to be discussed today; you might not get to see yourselves again tomorrow.

One family…


The picture quality at the beginning for me was shaky, but later on they got their balance and for the first time, our movie was captured from the sky! The acting was superb; the story line was intriguing and unusually captivating, the production was of good quality. Sounds were clear, soundtrack perfect. In my opinion I think this awesome movie deserves a 9/10 (Good job aunty ‘vieve and the entire crew…except for the tragic end).

The sad eventuality…


And before I go again, let me give a kudos to the producer(s) and actors. I believe this is the first of its kind in Nigeria and we are getting there, far past the level we are known to.

Finally, always remember that the Road to Yesterday does not exist, only a Road to Tomorrow from today does. Never push to today or tomorrow what could have been done or handled yesterday.

Have a nice day and beautiful week.

Oluwakemisola A.

photo credit: All sources from google.





SAFE ABORTION: The controversy

When the word “abortion” is pronounced or heard in our society today, different head turning reactions is prompted. Some people frown at it, some shrug at it while others are indifferent But except we want to be “hypocrites” or hide under the shield of “sheer ignorance”, is when we would deny its existence and consequences (good or bad).IMG_20151212_151544

As much as it is a taboo and we would all pretend to not want to know or hear about it, the plain and bitter truth is; ABORTION IS HAPPENING, and EVERYDAY A FELLOW FEMALE IS BEEN KILLED BY THE PROCESS and that makes a generation gone. It going on in our very community, it is rampantly on an increase and it concerns us deeply because whether you like it or not, “a daughter” or “a niece” or “a sister” or “a cousin” or “a friend” or even “a mother” somewhere right now, is falling victim trying to get rid of a conception she does or does not want.

So many circumstances can warrant an abortion but does this justify what it is… like a reaction we got online * “Can killing ever be safe…abortion is what it is, except when it is really life threatening… by @Afolato”. Now this brings us to our topic SAFE ABORTION; how safe is it? Or can it be safe? Or should it even be condoned or even legalised?

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Abortion, according to WHO, can be defined as the termination of pregnancy for whatever cause before the foetus is able to survive on its own, extrauterinely. According to Planned Parenthood, Abortion is a safe and legal way to end a pregnancy but with choice under medical conditions and this is classified as safe abortion.

There are naturally induced abortion i.e. miscarriage, spontaneous abortions, artificially induced abortion (intentional and unintentional use of potentially harmful and poisonous substances and drugs) or surgical and medically oriented abortions carried out in a proper hospital or by a quake doctor. As medical personnel in the life saving job, abortion is seen from a different perspective, it’s just like any other surgical or therapeutic procedure we carry out to save a life, like our job demands and our duties (and also the Hippocratic Oath) calls. Ironical, isn’t it?… how “lifesaving” and supposedly “killing a life” can go together in the same sentence.

According to the ABORTION LAW by United Nation in 2013 report, the national law has 5 categories;

• Category 0 – Abortion not allowed

• Category 1 – General principle allow abortion to be performed In order to save a woman’s life.

•Category 2 – Abortion explicitly allowed in order to save a woman’s life.

• Category 3 – Abortion explicitly allowed in order to save a life and for certain reasons.

• Category 4 – Abortion allowed on request.

And Nigeria belongs to category 3, with restriction to cases of maternal life, mental health, and/or health.

Let me paint you a scenario; a young girl of about 16-18 walks into a hospital with the complaint of been sick. Tests were carried out and she was found out to be pregnant. Probably, she is just in secondary school or her first year in the university or still writing JAMB. Probably her parents her struggling or she is been fostered or on a scholarship. (okay, yes, she is loose or stupid or dumb or how did she get herself pregnant in the first place? or good for her…or maybe the poor girl has just been raped or abused, worse by a familiar family or friend… whatever is going through your mind right now, you might be wrong, you might be right but then… the deed is done. She is a month or two gone. Nothing changes that right now.) What is the way forward?

* Another reaction we got online was…  “Safe abortion; how safe is it? … as safe as not endangering my future” by @Tobiwhite_

Back to our scenario, now two weeks later on this fateful day, that same girl was rushed into the EMERGENCY ROOM, with different kinds of complications and bleeding. After battling to save her live for hours, or before rob and jack could even be altered she gives up the ghost… DO YOU KNOW, two lives has been lost and one of them could have been saved, to be saved another day and also save another?

You know, after the girl left the hospital that day, maybe after pleading for an abortion that got a NO. She had actually made up her mind to get rid of the pregnancy by any means which she really did not care how.  Eventually, maybe she took some advice, visited that chemist, or that sharp-sharp doctor, or the herbalist or maybe perhaps the agbo woman. And at the end of the day, she not only hurt the yet unborn but she also harmed herself. And the painful part is… it all could have been avoided.

Though we could say she killed herself but do you know she was unwell like every other sick person, and was refused treatment. Yes, good health is all round wellbeing; physical, mental, spiritual, psychological, emotional etc. and does not necessarily mean the absence of illness or unhealthy state. As at that point, the girl in question was sick emotionally, mentally, psychologically and even socially… and she wasn’t helped to help another day.

Another scenario, is of a 13/14 year old girl raped by a trusted fellow, or a 23-27 year old lady that already has like four children and is in abject poverty, or a 29-33 year old married woman raped by robbers or a 43-48 year old woman with health issues that is complicated with pregnancy. In these cases, where lives are threatened and social stigmatization or mental, psychological and emotional jeopardy is looming… what should be done? CHOICE, ABORTION or SAFE ABORTION?

* Yet another online reaction… “Abortion at any stage ain’t safe…considering the poor health facility in the country too” by @rotimiilori

Either for the girl above or for any of the other four, it is only safe and wise to play safe and save the lives of the women or girls in picture so they can have the opportunity to act right where they have gone wrong or to live to be pregnant another  day. All we are saying is, although abortion is still publicly illegal, but according to the ABORTTION LAW, if the situation is threatening an already existing maternal life or potentially harmful in any area to her health (socially, mentally, emotionally, educationally, psychologically…). Instead of trying to terminate it in the barbaric way, it could be safe and legal.

* We also got this online from @francisanyaegbu “I believe that the SAFE preceding it, shows it’s… see this piece – How safe is abortion?



Say no to female abuse and rape. Say no to unwanted pregnancy.  Say no to unsafe abortion. Say no to the endangering female race.  Say no to jeopardy of bright and lives … Say no to unnecessary death and waste of the female teenage, youth and adults.


– Avoid premarital, unprotected sex. Abstinence is the best and safest measure to avoid unwanted and unplanned pregnancy.

– In cases of abuse and rape, report to the nearest hospital and police station.

– In cases of health issues or pregnancy control, opt for family planning, IUD, tubectomy and other mechanical, surgical or oral contraceptive.

– In cases of unplanned and even planned  pregnancy, go to the nearest hospital for medical advice

– Avoid drug abuse

– Avoid patronizing unqualified medical / pharmaceutical personnel.


Oluwakemisola A.